"Well, when you use disposables you only have to change the diaper four times a day."
Yes, that was a real comment from a real mom in my mom's group.
I wasn't there, but as my friend was telling another mom about cloth, this was actually said out loud. When I heard about it, my jaw dropped. When I told my husband, his jaw dropped. First, who would do that to their child? Second, who would admit that in a group of moms?
I enjoy the playgroups Baby J and I are apart of and it's fun to interact with other adults who are like-minded. These types of comments make me wonder about these people though.
I joined this particular group when Baby J was about six months old. Half of the people are super welcoming, the other half are very cliquish. (It's not underlined, so it appears to be a real word.)
I try to be friendly with everyone, but this particular mom has never been super welcoming to me. In fact, she's someone that I really don't care to be around, but I try to not judge from the few times I've met her. I must say I was super annoyed when we were at a play date and her older son hit me upside the head with a toy and she didn't say anything to him. I did. I told the kid not to do that again in my teacher voice. I keep it around for occasions like this. When he kicked me as he was flipping himself on the couch, I suggested he go play somewhere else. Like closer to his mother and away from the younger babies.
So yesterday my friend came over and was excited to tell me that a newer mom in our group was asking about cloth diapers. Of course, as the great friend she is, she chimed in and told her about Bum Luxury. Don't you love good friends?!? As they were discussing how great cloth diapers are, this other mother chimed in with the infamous quote, "Well, when you use disposables you only have to change the diaper four times a day."
Why would you have to change a diaper any less because it's not reusable? Does your child only use the restroom four times a day? Do you only use the restroom four times a day? I live in a middle class neighborhood along with the rest of the parents in my playgroup-why would you choose to keep a dirty diaper on you child? In one hand, I'm glad I wasn't there to hear her say it because I couldn't keep my mouth shut. On the other hand, I couldn't keep my mouth shut, which is exactly what everyone else did. Nobody said anything to her! Um, hello?!? I assume they were as shocked as I was when I heard this statement, but I'm surprised that no one had anything to say in response. What would you have said? I can think of a few choice words myself.
|This picture is from a fellow blogger's post and she was definitely going to change the diaper.|
The fact is, no matter what you choose to use to diaper your baby, they need changed just the same. If your baby goes to the bathroom, their diaper should be changed. Just because a diaper has the ability to hold in a gallon of liquid, doesn't mean it should.